Empowered Parenting with Erica Shane
Join me for 12 weeks of inner and outer transformation! I will support you to become the parent you want to be. We will uncover what might be getting in the way of you showing up as the best version of yourself.
Week 1: Welcome and Orientation
Week 2: Setting Your Intentions as an Empowered Parent
→ Grounding into your strengths as a parent
→ Support for inner and outer resourcing
→ How to set your intentions as an empowered parent
Week 3: The Ten Core Pillars of Empowered Parenting
→ What dedication means as an Empowered Parent→ The ten guiding principles of whole family empowerment
→ The Power-Over parenting paradigm
→ The Power-Under parenting paradigm
→ The most common obstacles that keep parents from embracing Empowered Parenting
Week 4: Making Sense of Attachment Science
→ What creates a secure attachment
→ What creates an ambivalent attachment
→ What creates avoidant attachment
→ What creates disorganized attachment
→ How to earn a secure attachment within yourself so you can offer it to your children
Week 5: Making Sense of Nervous System Science
→ ALL behavior is our best attempt to meet this one core need: SAFETY
→ How to be your child’s Safe Harbor by becoming your own Safe Anchor
→ Understanding of how the nervous system works
→ Polyvagal theory and the vagus nerve
→ How to support our children through sensory overload back into safety
→ How to track your nervous system thermometer and return to calm
→ The art of rupture and repair
→ Emotional freedom technique: “Tapping” for nervous system safety
Week 6: Making Sense of Mindsight and Brain Science
→ What mindsight is and how to use it
→ The neurology of empathy and compassion
→ How parents are literally their children’s brain sculptors
→ How to choose curiosity rather than judgment
→ The six barriers that keep us from mindsight
→ The seven encouragers of mindsight
→ Brain development for children birth-age 30
→ Understanding our subconscious mind and our belief system
→ How to create thoughts that expand you, root you, and connect you to self and compassion
Week 7: Making Sense of Emotional Intelligence
→ What is emotional intelligence
→ How it serves
→ What keeps us from embodied emotional intelligence
→ The new communication of feelings, faux feelings, needs, and beliefs
→ How we can support our children’s emotional development
→ An emotional body-guided meditation and instructional video
→ “Permission to FEEL”
→ Non-verbal self-empathy
Week 8: Empowered Conversations
→ Your generational patterns around the experience and expression of anger
→ Your generational patterns around voice and expression
→ Your belief system around voice, expression, and feelings plus needs
→ A ten-step process of empowered conversation
→ What blocks us from communicating consciously and nonviolently
→ How to make a clear request versus a demand
→ How to model intentional speech
Week 9: The PEACE Process
→ What holds you back from surrendering to play?
→ The five-step process of PEACE
→ How to shift from power over or under boundaries into power with
→ The art of the loving limit
→ Boundaries from soul values
→ How to focus on engagement over expectations
→ Your role in teaching children how to keep their agreements without shame
Week 10: Anger and Healthy Aggression
→ Generational patterns around anger and aggression
→ How to move through anger in your body in a way that is harmless
→ How to practice, and model, anger resolution for your child
→ How to hold space for and support your child’s anger processing
→ A deeper awareness of your judgments and beliefs around anger
→ How to anticipate anger by reading your body’s cues
→ How to befriend your anger in whatever way serves best
Week 11: The Power of Play and Storytelling
→ The twelve play languages
→ The four temperaments
→ The barriers that keep parents from playfulness
→ How to transform conflict through empathy and play
→ Role-reversal and healing role play
→ Healing stories for stressed behavior
→ How to connect to your inner child and reclaim play
→ What games speak to your heart and how to introduce them to your child
→ Games for aggression, anger, and anxiety
→ Games, games, and more games!
Week 12: Your Personal Transformation
→ Where in your mindset have you gained clearance and more awareness?
→ What is your relationship to your inner landscape? Can you name your feelings with more ease? Can you voice your needs?
→ How are you able to hold space for your child? How deeply can you listen?
→ How wide has your heart cracked open? How much unconditional love for yourself and your child now permeates your days?
→ How merciful can you be with yourself? When you “regress?” When you “fail,” when you make mistakes and have moments of regret?
→ How has your communication style shifted?
→ Has your children’s behavior shifted? Is there more peace? Is there more joy?Is there more possibility and play?
→ How has your relationship to yourself shifted? Can you look yourself in the eye and breathe deeply with appreciation?
→ Can you remain in perspective to your soul’s evolution? Can you trust that no matter where you are, it’s where you are meant to be?
My intention for our time together is about you making profound shifts in your parenting and family relationships.
My goal is to provide a deep, transformational experience for you as a parent first, as you let go of your residual feelings and unconscious belief patterns left over from your own childhood and the way you were parented.
Since the unconscious mind accounts for over 90% of our behavior, you will see a change almost immediately, even before you receive any parenting tools.
Within our time together, you are able to quickly release the old unconscious belief patterns and replace them with your own empowering beliefs—the ones that will truly support your best parenting.
What you’ll experience in this program is that there is no need for time-outs, consequences or punishments as a means to discipline your child.
Instead, we work together with your new parenting tools to develop a deep connection with your child, so that you and your child have simple, effective communication, and an awareness of family values.
You and your child are able to easily move through conflicts within the home. You will nurture a deep connection that allows your child to feel safe to communicate with you through any situation.
I am here to help you see that you can raise respectful, polite and thoughtful children who are self-confident, responsible and happy. And you don’t have to resort to yelling, punishing, or threatening. Or turning a blind eye to unacceptable behavior.
When you access the parenting tools, you’ll notice a decrease in your frustration level, less conflict in the home, a difference in your child’s behavior and most importantly, a deep sense of calm and connection, with the peace of mind that comes when you know you are doing your very best as a parent.
We’ll be on the phone regularly, to co-create your success.
I’ll be sending you weekly empowered parent teachings.
I’ll have abundant reading materials for you each week.
And weekly Homework!
Choose to schedule calls every week, or every two weeks-- it all depends on how much time you have to commit to the work in between phone sessions (2hrs is typical).
contact me for more info!