My work consists of so much more than attending births. I find myself mediating so that my couples can hear and understand one another with open minds and hearts. I share with them the sweet awareness of what it can look like to truly honor the needs of ALL through their postpartum window. I share self-care practices to take them through their lives. I mirror their own intuition around important decisions, for only they have the answers. And I provide expertise, yet this "expertise" is drawn from all the knowledge that my past clients have ever passed on to me. And it is taken from all the whispers their babies have ever sung in my ear. Yes, these babies get born, and I am there, and she may be gifted with a presence that stands by her side, by her wishes, by her spirit as she flies through her labor to places I can't see. What I do see though is the appreciation, the acknowledgment I receive after this angel enters the world into their arms, and when all settles down, I get a surprise letter of gratitude, it always gets me, it always moves me, shifts my perspective and throws me forward even deeper into this work. I am a passenger on their ship where love and knowledge and wisdom multiplies, again and again and again. My work takes me into a deep blue wavy sea where all I can do is trust that I will come back to shore, just as she returns from the edge, during her labor. We walk the line, we reach the edge, we look down, and we trust with our hands intertwined.
Erica is a Childbirth Doula in NYC. Her present focus is on the postpartum period.